IPCSERI

Summary..

2009-04-23T00:31:00.000-07:00

On the Interpersonal Communication, I can learn so many things about the communication. Besides that, I also can get some skill to communicate in advance. This can be learning from the chapter 9, messages and conversation. On this chapter we can learn the conversation process. In the conversation process, it starts from opening and ending with closing. In addition, on the chapter 5, its help me how to be a good listening. This chapter gives us the stages of listening. I as the student must know about all this. This because every day I will listen my lecturer teaching in the class. However, the new things that I have learned are verbal and nonverbal messages. This can be learning from chapter 6 until chapter 8. The most interesting to me is on nonverbal communication channels. This is because I can learn body communication, facial communication and other else. On the chapter 13, I learned about the conflict. This chapter I know about principles of interpersonal conflict, conflict management stages and its conflict management strategies, this chapter also made me easily to handle the conflict among my relationship. Overall the Interpersonal Communication chapter, made me reminds again what I have done and does the correction toward it. So, next time I would not do the mistakes again.

Conflict between my sister and my brother

2009-04-23T00:23:00.000-07:00

Every one of us have their own conflict whether it positive conflict or negative conflict. Actually I do not like conflict because it made our relationship become hostilities. I have some story that I want to share. I have a sister and older brother in my family. Both of them very closely and sometime I very jealous with them. Why I say like that? This is because my sister very caring to my brother than me. During my brother SPM, my sisters always teach him when after the school. After my brother done with him SPM, he get the result. So, my sister helps him to find the good location campus for continued he study. After find the good location, my brother got a letter that offered him to take plantation management at UiTM Campus. That course is very interesting to my family, so we ask him to accept that offer. We do not know what is in his mind on that time whether he wants to continue or not he study. He just follows all my parents say to him. He goes to UiTM and just takes one week only to survive at that campus. One day, he call my mother that he already arrive at Miri and saying that he do not want to study, he just want to find some job. When my sister heard that news she become very angry to my brother. Then, from that the conflict between them begins until now can not be solving they conflict. Now both of they like I win, you lose in my family. I as a younger sister very upset with them behavior.

RelAtiOnshIps and tEchnOlOgy..

2009-04-20T21:29:00.000-07:00

Relationship and technology make me to remember my friend that study at UPNM Kuala Lumpur right now. This relationship exist when he find my phone number in my classmate hand phone.

He and my classmate is very close friend because they live at the same areas that are at Tawau, Sabah. Before I know him, I and my classmate had made some scandal in the class on that time. But my others classmate does not know about we relationship. This is because the way we communicate is just on the hand phone. He always calls and gives me some short message sent.

During the class, both of us do not talk to each other because we want to hide this relationship. This relationship not become to longer because we have the different characteristics. After Hari Raya, I get some messages from the unknown number phone. I become angry when a lot of messages that I do not know sending by whom.

One day, he tells me the truth that he is my classmate friend. I do not know why starting that day I really closely to him until now. But one thing, I cannot see he face because he do not want to sent he picture to me. When we chatting in the hand phone, I do not know why I have a lot of ideas to sharing at him. He and I have a lot of similarity of characteristics. He really nice person, this can be show the way he communicate and give some ideas to me.

Until now, I do not know whether my classmate know about his friend have relationship with me or not. But I do not care about that all, I hope one day I can meet him face to face as a friend. Now, I have found that my classmate has made some scandal in that class also. Why he always find some girl in that class to be the girlfriend. Very funny when know that he very hard to find some girl at the different course.

ConvErsAtiOn...

2009-04-20T20:54:00.000-07:00

I have some friend that never talks during our secondary school. Both of us very shy when want to communicate. When see he face, I just smiling at him but when I want to open my mouth to talks with him my tongue suddenly stuck.

I do not know why I can be like that when face to face with he. He actually my classmate during forms four and forms five. Ever we in the same class, he never talks to me but with others classmates he treat very well with them. Sometimes, I want to ask him why he does not want to talk with me. Am I do something wrong at him.

After the ends of forms four, I knew that he has couple in that class. It very surprising when knows them relationship in that class. After I knew that news I does not care anymore about he want to talks to me or not. This is because he already have girlfriend. So, I do not want to spoil they relationship.

However, now they already break up because does not have similarity in their relationship. I thought that I will never see him anymore, but we study at the same university. The strangely is at this university he bravely want to talks to me. This begin when he get my phone number from my friend. One night, he invited me to dinner with him. So, with the open heart I accept him invited.

That’s night very special to me because we finally can do the good conversation and my tongue do not stuck anymore. After that night, we automatically are good friend. We always chatting in the phone and changing our ideas. This relationship much unexpected because I never think this might be happening between of us.

dO nOt bE intentiOnal OrientatiOn..

2009-04-20T01:21:00.000-07:00

I more likely intentional orientation. Why? Because I actually like to labels first then actual. This behavior started from my secondary school already. However, this attitudes exist when the new student or teacher come into the class.

So from that, we always talks about he or she. This most to first impression, we look at he or she act or the way he or she communicate to us. It is so funny when remember all this and it is very cruel to critic them. This had happen when we changing our English teacher. Before she become our English teacher, our previous English teacher is does not really strictly toward us.

This teacher just comes to the class and gives some exercise without teaching us about this entire subject. So, when my principal knows about our English teacher behavior like that he find some new teacher for take place as our English teacher.

Our new teacher is Indian teacher. When first time she comes to the class, first impression we toward her is she really weak just like the previous teacher and smelly. Suddenly, she shows us her real behavior. All of us surprising because she really a strict and sometime we can not heard what she talk about.

This is because she slang too deep when speak in English. From that time, we all just follow her instruction and never to objection her teaching. But today, I change myself to be extensional orientation because I actual first, then labels it. The past event make we know that not all thing that we are see first is the true thing about that person.

OlfactOry cOmmunicAtiOn.....

2009-04-20T00:50:00.000-07:00

Scientists estimate that we can smell some 10,000 different odours. This can be shows when the people and place must have their smells. Example, some of people have their favourite perfume or cologne. When we passing them, we can smell their perfume.

But, not all the smell that we smelling is the nice and wonderful smell. This is because sometimes we also can to smell like bad or horrible smelling. In addition, this smelling comes from their body odour.

From my opinion, the people who have the body odour is because they are lot of sweating and also do not use the deodorant. During my previous school, I have some friend that have the bog size of body. When she sweating, I cannot come closely to her body. I not to try to critic her but it is really true.

However, do not look her body like that she has a lot of friend in that class. I do not know why, maybe she is a funny person and treats some people nicely. Just one thing that spoils about her that is her body odour.

On that time, my friends have sold some product to her and give some offer for her to buy that product. She really interesting to that product and she buy it. That product is a type of powder to avoiding body odour. We thought that when she use that product she will be have a nice smelly but we wrong because she still have that body odour. All of us do not know how to help her problem anymore. At university, every day I smell the rubbish smells at parking B. I really tension when to past that road. In conclusion, without smell, taste would be severely impaired.

Myself unassertive person

2009-04-17T03:44:00.000-07:00

Sometimes I fell myself very unassertive person. I also feel that I really nice person and softly person. When my friend know my behavior like that they always get some benefits from me. Just like this semester I have some friend, she also my group member. She likes the person that does not have a friend in that class. So poor when know she fate on this semester. After she become my group project member, she likely do not want to do that project. She really lazy to seek or give some idea about that project. When we ask her to do some work, she always answered that question with the word "Sorry, I do not know to do this work" or "Sorry, I really can not find that information". Oh my God, why I very nicely to invited she joined we in this group project. Finally, I become angry and be so assertive to her. I really do not know whether I doing this right or not. I can not control my temple that time, I angry to her and telling to her about our feeling. On that time she really regret about her behavior toward all of us. After all that happen, we use the communicate assertively. This is because to make sure that she will doing well in our project. Maybe this incident gives we lesson from our mistaked when do the group project.

Listening

2009-04-16T00:08:00.000-07:00

Listening...Oh that word very synonyms to my life as a student. This is because everyday I go to class listen to my lecturer lecture. Moreover, I also will learn something new about the all subject that I take for my Office Management course. Actually, I will be good listening if my speaker very creatively elaborate they presentation. I will be bored when the speaker just read their point from a book. They can read from the book but not the whole words in the book. This is because we as the student not the illiterate, we self can read it by our own. I not to try criticize some speaker but because I have some experienced about it. Just forget that story. This semester I very interested at the Interpersonal Communication subject. I can say that all student in my class pay attention and be good listening in this class. This is because my lecturer is very confident and have some good ideas when she want to evaluate her point. Everyone of us give a good responding to she lecture. On the friendship, I will be a good active listening. This path always happen when she tell to us about her problem. When we be a active listening, it helps us to understand what she meant. Sometimes, I also always be empathic listening, this is because I focus on feeling what that person feeling.

Perception on my friend

2009-04-13T00:51:00.000-07:00

Everday we see the different people walks beside, infront or behind we. However, god has gift we eye to see and brain to think. When both of this thing combine , it might be perception us toward that person when we saw they. I am the one who always make percertion and also try to a prove that perception whether it is true or not. When I at secondary four, I have some friend that same class with me started from secondary three. She is very nice person and good in academic. Someday, I and my others friend saw her walking style. On that day, her style of walks was different with usual day. We knows she has a boyfriend and on that time, when we see her walks like that, we perception is she do not have virgin anymore. I know that we very cruel because might thinking like that toward her. All of us become stereotypes but at the same time we try to a prove it. One week after we make that prediction, she call all of us to see her because she want to say something. We know what the words that she want to talked about. Suddenly, she cries and say that she totally do not have virgin anymore. All of us very dissappointed with her attitudes. Now, she already married with that men and have one child. My behavior can not be change because I like to make perception when I see other people.

HONEYMOON EXPERIENCE

2009-02-05T20:50:00.000-08:00

Honeymoon3...everyone of us has they on experience of honeymoon. But the word of honeymoon not only for the couple of married. This is because I'm as single person also has this experience of honeymoon in my life. The honeymoon word starting exist in my dictionary life when I'm in form four student at my secondary school. On that time, I was feel so happy because I got the science class. Almost everyday I'm prays to be the science student in my school and lastly I really got that class. When I came that class I looked my classmates just doing they own work likes read the novel, playing they own handphone,talking to others and do not pay attention to the teacher that teaching in front of their. First my impression is I'm was shocked because my teacher does not care about he or she student at that time. She or he just teaching and give some exercise to all of us.But not all us behavior likes that because some student from my class very takes seriously about they studies and always asking the question to my teacher. My behavior on that time are not really good and not really bad student. Why I telling myself like that because when my teacher teaching I listen what they talking about and when they give some homework I do it with very well but I not the student that study hard or study smart, I'm just likes the other students. Besides that, when in the exam I'm just get pass marks not the higher marks. Example, I'm always get 50-60 marks in my class. That is my story at secondary school. However, in university, I also honeymoon at first semester because I do not know the real university life and now I was regret and I do not want to repeated my mistake again. Let is be my bad experience and now I want to begin my new life and get lot of good experience in my life.

The optimum level for relationship ambiguity

2009-01-19T00:15:00.000-08:00

Hi madam I'm Norseri. About your assignment last week I think the optimum level for relationship ambiguity for me are that relationship must have respectful in each other. When in relationship have this aspect it can make our relationship become more meaningful. Actually I have experienced in this aspect. When I already at six year old I was school at pre-school, from that school I have two friend that is very close to me then until now we are still be friend. However, one from them is already married last year and have a child now. While, on relationship also we must contact each other example like call they for asking they condition and development they now. Like me, whether I at UiTM now I still contact my friend using my handphone. So, the relationship will not ending just like that. Besides that, we also must helping each other and have the consider attitude. When we have this aspect or this attitude the relation will become stronger and can believe each other too. At this way, what I can try to say is friendship must be appreciating each other and also in friendship also must work together to maintain our relationship.